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02/08/17

It’s All About ‘Yalance’

I typed in google ‘best UK wellness Instagrammers’ you know for inspiration. A massive mistake that was. I’m not gonna lie I was disappointed. There was no denying how great these accounts were, but they all had one thing in common, picture perfect healthy food. It screamed my food intake isn’t perfect therefore I’m not part of the wellness industry. Stupid I know, but let’s be honest, sometimes we get daft ideas in our head. My Instagram is nothing like these accounts and I’m pleased about that. I think it’s important to be real.

These other accounts weren’t inspiring me. In fact, it was just depressing me. I wasn’t motivated to eat healthily I was just reminded that I’m not there yet with my food, but you know what that’s OK. So many people still think wellness is simply just healthy food. Yawn. It’s boring because it’s BS.

If you’re a foodie blogger then I salute, that’s no easy task.  However, to claim that someone who solely covers food is the best the wellness scene has to offer is irresponsible. You might as well say wellness is simply just about food. Wellness is not just about food. Wellness is about being healthy, mind and body. Food is just one aspect of that.

wellness and balance

To be healthy it’s all about yalance. Yalance being ‘Your Balance’.

Balance is a myth. Nothing will ever be balanced. You will never eat healthily, exercise, be in the moment, strike the perfect family/work life balance, have plenty of cash, make time for pleasure, have a social life, meditate, run those errands, keep the house clean and make sure the kids have done their homework all at the same time. Believe me, I tried.

Last week I tried so hard that I broke down, I broke my heart on the phone to my bestie. She knew something was up,  so she called me and said the usual “you Ok” and I cried and cried and cried. I sobbed like a baby down the phone to her. I was trying to do all the above whilst still struggling with personal life stuff.

walking for wellness

Sometimes you just can’t do it all. That’s OK. It really is ok. Especially if you’re going through something tough. It’s OK to feel like you’re not coping. Just do one thing, stop trying to do it all. Chat to someone. Don’t compare yourself to others (although you will, try not to). Stop trying to get a perfect balance.

Find your Yalance. Your balance could be the house is a bit of a mess but you did exercise. Or simply you don’t feel like getting into shape right now or meditating and you’re gonna give yourself a break about it. No more beating yourself up.

I feel better now and the reason I feel better is that I let myself feel all the emotions. I then stopped trying to do it all. When you let it all out and stop trying to juggle everything, things have a funny way of working out. Sometimes the best thing to do is surrender and say “I can’t do this anymore” and be OK with that. No one wins any awards for doing it all.

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17 comments so far.

17 responses to “It’s All About ‘Yalance’”

  1. Laura dove says:
    05/08/17 at 6:24 pm

    I’m sorry to hear that things have been tough but talking about things is always the best way forward. Be kind to yourself lovely lady. Xx

    Reply
    • Kirsty Dee says:
      05/08/17 at 8:41 pm

      Thank you ♥

      Reply
  2. Elizabeth says:
    07/08/17 at 1:21 pm

    Gosh I needed to read this. I struggle so much to juggle everything and epic meltdowns happen if I ask my family for help. Seriously, asking the kids to put their laundry away takes about as much effort as climbing a mountain! Trying to balance eating well, exercising, work (at home during the school holidays!), a marriage….. yea, I need to find my own yalance!

    Reply
    • Kirsty Dee says:
      07/08/17 at 11:16 pm

      I feel ya, hope you find your yalance soon ♥

      Reply
  3. fashionandstylepolice says:
    08/08/17 at 12:15 pm

    I hope you are feeling better now. I struggle to balance everything with two toddlers. It can be hard, but I try to take one step a time.

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    • Kirsty Dee says:
      08/08/17 at 12:32 pm

      Thanks much better now. Yes, I think that’s key, one step at a time x

      Reply
  4. Colette B says:
    08/08/17 at 8:08 pm

    This really spoke to me Kirsty. We try hard to be all things at all times – when actually we just need to find and do what makes us happy. We can’t do it all at once x

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    • Kirsty Dee says:
      11/08/17 at 10:04 am

      Glad it resonated with you, totally agree with you x

      Reply
  5. Eva says:
    14/08/17 at 9:28 pm

    How very true Kirsty. Hope you’re better now. I perfectly agree with the idea of Yalance. I love your IG feed. It’s real and it’s beautiful.

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    • Kirsty Dee says:
      15/08/17 at 12:15 am

      Thank you, I do. Ah that’s lovely, thank you x

      Reply
  6. ethannevelyn.com says:
    15/08/17 at 12:54 pm

    I haven’t heard of the term “Yalance” before. This is an interesting read. I never have balance of anything! lol! Especially, when kids are on holiday. Honestly, I just let them be – I just let the house be – messy and all that. I long for them to go back to school! lol! Life too shot to worry – live a little as they say. Big hugs. xxx

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    • Kirsty Dee says:
      16/08/17 at 9:14 am

      I love that “live a little”. Yes ‘Yalance’ is just a term I made up because I think that’s really where it’s at. I don’t believe in balance.

      Reply
  7. Rachel Bradford (@RachelAnne_Bee) says:
    17/08/17 at 9:08 pm

    Really enjoyed this point, and you have such a valid point about wellness and wellbeing being about more than just healthy eating, it’s about all aspects of life.

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  8. Tanita says:
    19/08/17 at 7:44 pm

    Aw bless you lovely I am sorry you were feeling like that. You are very lucky to have a best friend who listens and cares about you. You are so right it is all about your balance. You have to do what is right for you and do what you can. There is no right way because we are all so different. I hope you are okay xxx

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    • Kirsty Dee says:
      19/08/17 at 7:46 pm

      Thank you, that’s so kind of you. I’m all good now, I think sometimes you have to just let it all out. Thanks so much for your lovely comment x

      Reply
  9. Lisa says:
    31/08/17 at 11:04 am

    Thank you Kirsty, this is going up on my goals board today “Yalance”. Everyone’s idea of balance in life can be so very different so I totally agree. Being able to identify what’s important on a day to day basis and mixing it up is what works best for me.

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    • Kirsty Dee says:
      31/08/17 at 9:11 pm

      Ah, I love that it resonated with you. Finding Yalance is so important I think x

      Reply

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