Hey, I’m Kirsty Dee (although Dee is actually my middle name, my full name is rather long!).
This started as a blog, a place to share my wellness journey and it grew to become a place where I would help women empower themselves, to lead their lives and feel good about themselves. I started offering coaching, soul-nourishing audios and programmes for women as I noticed this pattern, so many people do not feel good enough, worthy or that they do enough. They doubt themselves to the point it stops them from going for the things they want or even believing it’s possible for them. I became a coach to help people to feel enough, to see what they can’t see yet. To get women Choosing To Rise to all that they are. Living in their full potential without striving or burning out. Doing more won’t necessarily bring better results or any results for that matter.
I never thought I’d become a coach in all honestly, in fact, I was totally set against the idea. My limited experience of coaches was anything but great in fact I didn’t like what I had witnessed and so I wanted no part of this industry. As life would have it I ended up accidentally on this path as I discovered the most incredible coaches out there. These coaches without them even knowing helped me so much. They weren’t even directly covering topics that dealt with my hangups, but the way they cared for their clients, carried themselves and how brave they were totally opened up my eyes to how much coaching changes people’s lives.
So as I started busting through my hangups, insecurities, never feeling good enough patterns, striving, trying to keep everyone happy – I would share what I’d learnt by offering free workshops in the Choose To Rise Facebook group. After a year of homing in on my skills, creating audios, doing little home events for anyone that would listen, studying, being on this path myself I had built up a foundation of knowledge and skills so I knew I just had to become a coach. To take the leap as I couldn’t find anyone covering the topics I desired to see spoken about in a way that resonated with me. It was as if my soul was saying, that’s your job. I felt the call and so Choose To Rise Coaching and soul sessions were born.
I realised I could offer something so incredibly needed with integrity, love and realness. The kind of coaching that heals and transforms lives and so it was, I become an empowerment coach for women, holding space for them to grow into the woman they desired to be and teaching them that they are already good enough and worthy.
My passion comes because my life wasn’t fulfiling and I never felt good because I didn’t love myself, in fact, I didn’t like myself. I was sexually abused as a child, I continued to allow shitty behaviour from men until I was twenty and some of those memories are so painful, yet I learnt how to rise from it all. I’ve overcome depression, ignorance when called an attention seeker after hospitalising myself, a doctor that didn’t wanna know when I shared my abuse, betrayal and toxic friendships. I spent most of my life feeling misunderstood like people didn’t get me but the truth is whilst many haven’t I wasn’t allowing those that would an opportunity to really get to know me, I was hiding parts of my self in shame. I was afraid to let my woo self free encase it was ridiculed. No longer ashamed I now teach everyone to be this brave and that when you do that your tribe finds you. I share this because it matters. Your life matters. Whatever has happened in the past matters, but it doesn’t define you.
I rose above a painful past and now live a really soulful fulfilled life. Our past shapes us, but it doesn’t need to control us. We can be happy and we can always Choose To Rise. I believe the first step is we have to love ourselves. Secondly, we have to leave what doesn’t serve us behind and create fulfilment in our lives right now. I was a victim, but I no longer am. In fact these days I feel pretty dam unstoppable, sure I have days where I doubt myself, where I think I can’t do this but never does that stop me doing anything my heart truly desires to do.
I’m married to Tony although I call him Pony. We have been married since 2007 and he’s my best friend, cliche I know, but true. We have two kids one we nickname Pie and one called Clark because Pony loves Superman. I have a diploma in holistic therapies and REIKI Level 1, I’m a trained fitness instructor and the retired creator of Dorset Lifestyle Bloggers. To go more personal I’m a typical Pisces and wear my heart on my sleeve. I always dream big. I tried veganism and vegetarian on and off for two years, but I could never stick to it. I’m now a happy pescatarian. Although I started off writing a blog, I find literacy really hard. Obstacles don’t stop me though. I’m ACTUALLY WRITING MY 1ST BOOK to serve women all around the world who have the hangups I had. I never let challenges stop me because if we do then we will never live a truly soulful life and so I refuse for that to be my reality. I always choose soulful living.
To help women feel good because I know what it feels like to not feel good about yourself. To help them rise to a life that fulfils them and to learn to love themselves, I mean truly love themselves, not the vanity type (that FYI isn’t actually self-love) but the real deal. In 2018 that lead me to create my own wellness box and audio series which then evolved and now is an online programme. I just knew that there had to be a better way to live than just grinding and not really ever living a life you love. I’m not talking about an Instagram perfect life, I mean the best your life can be right now in your current situation, there is already enough filters online. We all have bad days so let’s be honest about that, but the grass is greener where you water it so it’s really possible to create a life that lights you up and nourishes you. It took me ages to figure out that the answer was really very simple. You have to love yourself and you have to Choose To Rise. Dreams are possible and I’m gonna cheerlead for you and tell you to go after them, but I also know succeeding in your dreams isn’t what creates a soulful life, it’s making this moment right now the very best it can be because life is short and all we ever have is moments.
Choose To Rise, always,