Hey, I’m Kirsty Dee, a self-love & empowerment coach for women. I started off as a blog actually, a place to share my wellness journey and it grew to become a place where I would help women empower themselves, to lead their lives and feel good about themselves. I noticed this pattern, so many people do not feel good enough, worthy or that they do enough. They doubt themselves to the point it stops them from going for the things they want or even believing it’s possible for them.
From my own personal experience & through working with many women I know the conventional methods of wellness often don’t make us feel good or well. Exercise, meditation, therapy are all amazing tools but if you don’t like yourself then not a lot changes. If you are always worried about what your family thinks or the opinions & judgement of others, you stay in fear. If deep down you don’t feel good enough, your relationships are struggling or you feel that your behind in life then that takes its toll. We often feel we are failing and we beat ourselves up for just being human. Humans feel, it’s one of our superpowers but often our feelings, emotions & thoughts can take over leaving us feeling dis-empowered. So often we miss or avoid looking at the things that actually get us down & stop us from feeling empowered.
After 15 years in the wellness industry and years of honing in on my skills, creating audios, doing little home events for anyone that would listen, studying, being on this path myself I had built up a foundation of knowledge and skills that I had this intuitive knowing in early 2019 that it was time to become a coach. You could say the coaching industry called me.
My passion comes because my life wasn’t fulfiling and I never felt good as I didn’t like myself. I was sexually and emotionally abused as a child by one of my caregivers causing a ripple effect where I continued to allow shitty and sometimes emotional abusive behaviour from men until I was twenty. I didn’t know any different, that some things weren’t normal and I certainly didn’t know I deserved better. Some of those memories are so painful, yet I learnt how to rise from it all. Sometimes we have to use our past to create a better tomorrow. It doesn’t mean we aren’t hurt or they haven’t hurt us deeply but it’s not letting it dictate our future. I’ve overcome depression, ignorance when called an attention seeker after hospitalising myself, a doctor that didn’t wanna know when I shared my abuse, many therapies that only made me feel more of a failure, betrayal, living in constant fear of what everyone thought of me and toxic friendships. Your life matters. You matter. Whatever has happened in the past matters, but it doesn’t define you. The truth is that patterns often repeat in our lives, I know they did for me because we don’t actually address the pain and the ripple effect it has caused. We are not responsible for the people who hurt us, we are responsible for the future we create.
Our past shapes us, but it doesn’t need to control us and it certainly doesn’t get to decide our future. It doesn’t define us. Who we are and what we do next does. I truly believe when we take care of ourselves & love ourselves we create a more loving world. Hurt people hurt people (not an excuse, but we know this) so we have to go first. To be the change. Love starts from within. Love yourself because you’re taking yourself wherever you go and so if you don’t like yourself then your gonna have a hard time feeling well & good about life.
More about me? I’m married to Tony although I call him Pony. We have been married since 2007 and he’s my best friend, cliche I know, but true. We have two kids one we nickname Pie and one called Clark because Pony loves Superman. I have a diploma in holistic therapies and REIKI Level 1. I’ve done many coaching courses as well as having tried various different therapies in my time. I’ve studied more self-help & personal development that I know what to do with it. Truthfully though I don’t think a lot of these things work. A lot of the time I think we are just looking for a fix outside of us. I think the real work is not in a bit of paper or in a course, it’s in the embodiment. It’s trusting yourself and knowing that you’re more capable than you’ll ever know. This is what I coach women on. Trusting themselves, loving themselves and feeling empowered using a real wholeness & holistic mind, body & soul approach to wellness whilst also actually factoring into the equation of what’s actually currently going on in your life. The real stuff we humans have to deal with. I also used to be a fitness instructor and I’m the retired creator of Dorset Lifestyle Bloggers. Although I started off writing a blog, I find literacy really hard. Obstacles don’t stop me though. I’m ACTUALLY WRITING MY 1ST frigging BOOK which has been delayed with COVID, but it’s all divine timing.