Extreme Loyalty Is A Trauma Response
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but extreme loyalty is a trauma response. Loyalty is thrown around as a positive thing without nuance. It’s used to manipulate people to stay in dysfunctional relationships. I’ll say this louder for the people at the back – EXTREME LOYALTY IS A TRAUMA RESPONSE! What do I […]
18 Things That I Wish I’d Known Before About Healthy Relationships
Here are 18 things I wish I knew decades ago about healthy relationships. 1) Fanastising and being attracted to other people is normal. YEP, I said it. I went there. Yes, I’m gonna piss some people off by saying it and I’m gonna say it anyway as I want to normalise this very normal thing […]
It Did Do Harm – An Open Letter To The Grandparents & Those With Adult Children
Dear those with adult children and grandparents, It did do harm. Some of the things you did, did harm. We aren’t fine. Many, many of us struggle. This isn’t to blame or shame you. You did the best you knew and we all get it ‘wrong’ and by no means am I saying this is […]
The Sisterhood Wound Runs Deep
I haven’t written a blog post in almost 2 years and it’s been 3-4 years since I blogged consistently, but this is something I felt called to share. The sisterhood wound runs deep. Real deep. Betrayal, heartbreak, very conditional love, humiliation, competing, jealousy, judgment, and rejection all leave a scar. I remember being 17 and […]
True Love Means You’ll Have Boundaries
I really came to realise in the last year how true love means you’ll have boundaries. In all my relationships that flourish there is a lot of respect there and the ones that don’t flourish there is either no respect or I simply haven’t put boundaries in place (AKA I’m not respecting or honoring myself). […]
Realising You Can’t Avoid Not Meeting Everyone’s Expectations (The Blog Post That Was Never Posted)
The following post I wrote well over a year ago and I never published it because it was personal, it was about someone and I was in fear they’d know it was about them. I didn’t want to hurt them so I never published it and it stayed in my draft folder until now. Now […]